Misunderstood

There are few things more frustrating than being misunderstood.  Communication is key, but what do you do when details in speech are not part of your genetic makeup or you don't fully complete thoughts and sentences to perfect accuracy.  Even the best communicators are sure to fall short of a never ending load of information.  Juggling multiple tasks can get complicated and overwhelming.  Every person is beating to their own drum in dealing with  issues, idols, and problems which makes communicating to others even more difficult.  Some people are sensitive and others can roll anything off their shoulders without thinking twice.  We all have fears, certain insecurities, and doubts about ourselves and others.  What happens when you are not clear when trying finish a thought or express a feeling or situation?  Immediately, assumptions play in on the other person's end making conversation confusing.  Subconsciousness becomes active and guards are in full operation.  Sometimes, I wish there was a heart monitoring device that spoke evidence of authenticity.  The worse feeling in the world is being misunderstood.  Even the best intentions are typically shot down by other's collected and evaluated opinions.  I wish more people with give the benefit of the doubt to other's motives without being judgmental. I often think of that word in an interesting way...judge=mental - because when we judge others or have paranoid feelings, it can drive us mental.  Often times, we take matters into our own hands and try to make decisions based on false accusations, hear say or misunderstandings.  This is so painful and wrong.  Relationships take time and effort and a willingness to sit down and discuss matters one on one to clear the air.  Sadly, most people have already made their decisions about others instead of making a real attempt to have authentic relationships.  I feel like a pretty deep person and dear friend to others, but often times am clearly misunderstood.  This may be one of the most painful experiences to endure when trying to build meaningful relationships.  Most of us have that deep longing to be known and be accepted but very few are willing to get vulnerable and expose it all.  Without risks there are no returns.  The only way to build a foundation of trustworthy relationships is to continually put yourself out there boldly for others to accept or reject.  Being misunderstood is hard, but I have found the best way to personal growth and happiness with others is to be a risk taker and communicate likes, dislikes, fears, and frustrations.  We take the chance of being hurt, but we also take a chance of being known and being loved.  However, we can be assured, the true friends will shine through and the others will be pruned out.  It is a blessing to learn true friendships.  When you reveal weaknesses, and others go for the juggler, you know you can move on and not waste any more time trying to build a foundation.  In a way, the pain is actually an avenue to for growth and development of character to rise above the ones who are not authentic and cling to the people who treat you right!